Claiming your you: an autobiography.

You have that human need- wanting to be seen, heard and understood by another. And the feeling you get when it happens is like a hug- warm and safe. Feeling warm and safe with someone is what you want. And on some occasions when you don’t feel seen, heard and understood, your brain can go on yellow alert. Because feeling unseen feels unsafe. So you convince and defend, trying to be heard and understood. To get back to feeling safe. Because you have made feeling safe dependent on someone else's understanding of you. And you outsourced your power to feel safe. When the ability to feel safe is built into your own flesh. When you see YOU. When you understand YOU. When you know what is true for YOU. You might appreciate people who desire to understand you more than those who don’t. And you may want to have more of those people in your life. Let's not deny how good that feels. But even those people will not understand you all of the time. So feel disappointment when they don't- if that’s what you feel.

Then return to what you know is true for you. Find it in your body. That is where it lives. Claim your sovereignty and go be you. With love. Allow other people the sovereignty to go be them instead of what you need them to be. With love. And then you will feel the difference between need and love.