Unfolding Into Abundance: The Power of Feminine Openness

What if softening, not striving, is our superpower to creating a life of joy, love, and limitless possibility?

This morning, I sat in meditation, inviting GUS (God, Universe, Source) to flow through me, to fill me with whatever gifts it wished to bestow. My body softened, unguarded, resting in quiet surrender to the mysterious abundance that awaited.

As I opened, I felt a slight constriction around my heart. A clench of resistance. Part of me was open, but another part guarded, unsure whether to trust.

My mind, ever the problem-solver, began its familiar grind—trying to shape the unknown, as if directing the universe’s infinite wisdom was my job.

For years, I’ve practiced attuning to my body and its flutters, quickenings, tightening, and the softening. Sensations that whisper my truth, guiding me toward what I love and steering me away from what I don’t.

My practice reconnects me to the deep intuitive knowing in my body that my mind so often drowns out. It reveals unproductive patterns, emotions yearning to be felt, and the fears and self-limiting beliefs I’ve harbored. It sets me back on the path of what I truly love and want.

So when I felt that constriction in my chest, I listened. My body was revealing to me the calcifications of old beliefs that made it hard to open fully to receiving that which wants- always wants- to pour into me.

Because to truly open and receive is to dilate. And dilation can feel uncomfortable when the tight scars of unworthiness or distrust whisper that we are unlovable, unworthy and that we cannot truly have what we desire.

I caught myself thinking, “I need to strengthen my receiver muscles.” But then I smiled. Strengthen? Receiver muscles?

Does the ocean strain to receive the river’s flow? No, the ocean has endless capacity to receive all that the river pours into it. Does a flower work to meet the sun halfway?No, it unfurls with ease, absorbing the sun’s limitless abundance of light.

Receiving is not effort. It is a softening. It is allowing. It is a trust that we can be felt in our desire to create what we really love and attract that which would love to help us do it.

Yet, how deeply we fear this openness and release of control as women. Yes, we are powerful creators—capable, resilient, endlessly resourceful. We know how to achieve, to make things happen, to carry it all ourselves.

But to soften? To allow? To let ourselves be poured into? That can trigger warning signals in our systems. 

Because to open ourselves wide to receive asks that we let go of what we think keeps us safe: relying solely on ourselves. It asks that we trust, even when past pain whispers that it isn’t safe to want. Because maybe when we asked, we were punished. When we expected, we were let down. When we accepted, we were beholden to give back what we didn’t want to give.

The irony is, we are not safer creating alone and turning away the provision that is all around us. We don’t thrive as lone-wolves as much as we do in a pack.

The ocean stagnates when it blocks the river’s nourishing flow. The flower withers when it turns its face from the sun.

The part of us that longs to sink into trust, to release control, isn’t weakness. It is a calling to co-creation- a sacred dance of giving and receiving. And when we block ourselves from receiving, we don’t have as much to give the world.

Life, GUS, and others can give to us when they can feel us in our desire, and we soften, trust, and open ourselves to receive—even in the smallest of ways, with gratitude.

It begins with feeling ourselves—what we love, what we want, what makes us thrive. It begins with our practicing of believing in our worthiness and living in a continual state of openness to receive with gratitude.