When they blurt out YES when your real answer is NO. And when they doubt your every decision so you don’t decide. When they make you afraid to say the wrong thing and so you keep quiet. Or make you give too much and so you have nothing left for you. When they tell you that you don’t have what it takes so you don’t even try. Or that you have to try harder to be loved. When they expect you to be perfect so you never feel good enough. Or that you are never ready so you stay stuck where you are. When they keep you looping on regrets so you miss the miracle of now.
When you want to create a new life, new relationship, new art and they doubt you, dismiss you, judge you, scaring the bejeebers out of you so don't. And you stay frustrated and unfulfilled.
How do feel about those Shadow parts of you? Do you believe the things they say to you about your limitations, your failings, your worth? Do you blame yourself for having Shadows in the first place? Do you hate those parts of you?
What if you knew that your Shadows love you?
That they feel that they have an important job to do: to be the memory-keepers of your pain. And to save you from any more of that pain by protecting you from the risk of failure, rejection, abandonment- from the risk of being a fully expressed you.
Because they love you.
How do you feel about those parts of you now? The Shadows that also love what you love so much that they try to protect you when you want to burst into new territory? The Shadows that wouldn't get all triggered if they didn't also honor what you love and desire?
The Shadows that wouldn’t be there if they had felt loved and accepted in the first place? The parts of you that need your love and understanding so that they can stop working so hard got keep you safe and small?
Can you love your Shadows now?
Can you seat your Shadows beside your Light- the Creator that is fueled by what you love- inside the sacred inner salon of your soul? Can you thank you them for their care and concern, but take them out of the driver's seat of you life?
There is no part of you that is not sacred. Your Light AND your Shadows.
But know this: Your true identity is The Creator. You are Light, born with a flame of love in your body that burns to create what you desire. Your desire is your destiny.
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